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The Zan and Jordan Show — Episode 47 — Dread and Anxiety Disappear When You Remember What Matters

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End anxiety and dread around milestones like New Year’s or birthdays with a daily ritual and mindful pause.


WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:

- The difference between goal-chasing and focusing on manifesting a _felt state of being_ (and how this helps you attract much higher-quality relationships)

- Why resolutions fail—and what to do instead

- A daily ritual that replaces anxiety with trust and potential

- A powerful end-of-year reflection exercise rooted in the Ars Amorata philosophy


TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Highlights

56:40 Why alignment—not confidence or answers—dissolves New Year’s anxiety

59:10 Pausing, daily ritual, and the Amorati approach to reflection

01:00:00 How this is different from a resolution, plan, or to-do list

01:03:40 What actually matters

01:12:35 Zan's most enlightened quote

01:21:05 Jordan’s end-of-year exercise and reflection prompts


Up for a challenge? Participate fully in Jordan’s end-of-year reflection exercise. See the pinned comment.


ABOUT THIS VIDEO:


If you’re reading in the northern hemisphere, tonight is the longest night of the year. The ‘sun’, so to speak, has gone down, way down, and he will not rise again for three days.


In my younger days, this was one of the best times. Our pagan roots would pour through—parties, drinking, hook-ups that in any other season wouldn’t dare happen. At the coldest time of year, people became unseasonably warm.


These days, I tend to down tools in early December, travel somewhere a few days, watch the year’s best movies, and plot out what’s to come. By the time Jan rolls around, I’ve actioned my new year’s intention, and find myself in a whole new place. _Mentally, geographically, all the rest of it._


I didn’t plan this end-of-year rhythm: it’s just arisen as a natural cycle. Many things have to shift when you grow beyond party culture.


The older I get, the more I see how _shaped_ we are by seasons and rituals. I sense it’s wise to move with them.


*How intentional is your end of year? And how do you welcome the next one?*


This is what we explore on the podcast today.


In fact, I grill Zan on what I’ve always felt to be his most enlightened comment—


*‘Morning is a Promise. Everything you desire is contained within this day.’*


Take a moment to let that sink in. _Morning is a promise._


_Everything you desire is contained within this day._


~ Jordan


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