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The Zan and Jordan Show — Episode 45 — Why You Keep Avoiding Real Connection with Women (And How to Stop)
How to connect with a woman across the room without saying a single word.
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:
- The subtle difference between *desire,* which is honest, free and independent of outcome… and *neediness,* which has a covert agenda and tries to _take_ something
- How to let a woman FEEL you by expressing your desire openly
- How to overcome internal blockages that keep you from expressing your authentic desire
- *4 practical steps* to communicating your desire to a woman across any room, without saying a single word
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Highlights
05:45 True desire vs. covert neediness
15:07 Why power games sabotage connection (and how to escape the zero-sum mindset)
26:20 How Zan expresses genuine desire in the moment
37:55 Don’t submit to _her,_ submit to the *third entity:* the force of attraction
41:00 4 indicators of a guy freely expressing his desire to a woman
57:50 Try this if you struggle to sub-communicate with women
Two men are in a room, both interested in the same woman. Their behavior looks identical… but one expresses true desire, while the other carries neediness.
What’s the real difference between them?
Share your insights in the comments.
ABOUT THIS VIDEO:
Two men are in a room, both interested in the same woman.
The first guy–we’d say his interest comes from a place of *genuine desire.* He loves how the girl looks, and loves even more how her presence in the room makes him feel. Whatever conspires between the two of them, he’ll enjoy his evening.
The second guy–we’d say his interest is laced with *neediness.* He doesn’t actually like the girl–he likes what he can get from her. It could be sex. It could be a smile… a phone number. Validation, ultimately.
It might _look_ like he really likes her, and heck, he might even believe that himself.
An observer looking in wouldn't be able to tell the two guys apart.
But, even though no one’s said a word, the woman has already understood volumes about each of them and sees a world of difference between the two.
You know which guy she’d rather see again. But do you know *why?*
In today’s episode, Zan and Jordan discuss the mechanics of _*desire, expressed*_ in their most detailed and practical breakdown of sub-communication yet.
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